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Emotionally Focused Family Therapy: When Your Marriage Is Affecting Your Parenting — Dennis & Kim Eames

Michelle Puster

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What if the thing standing between you and the parent you want to be is not a technique — but the unhealed places in your closest relationship?

Dennis and Kim Eames are certified Emotionally Focused Couple, Family, and Individual Therapists and Supervisors at Infinity Family Therapy — and they bring something to this conversation that no clinical training alone could provide: they have lived it. Twenty years into their marriage, with their relationship highly strained. Their children were quietly learning to duck and cover. Kim privately believed it was too late to have a real relationship with her daughter.

That family looks completely different today. And in this episode they share exactly what changed — and what Emotionally Focused Therapy made possible for their marriage, their children, and their own healing as parents.

In this episode you'll learn:

  • How disconnection between partners ripples directly into the parent-child relationship — and what children absorb that parents often cannot see or name
  • Why the negative cycle between parent and child scrambles loving parental intent into a message that lands as "you don't like me" — and how EFFT helps families see that cycle together
  • What Emotionally Focused Family Therapy actually looks like in a family session — and why bringing the whole family in changes everything
  • The Hold Me Tight Let Me Go workshop for parents and teens — what to expect and why Dennis recommends doing the couple work first
  • Why curiosity is a superpower — and how starting with curiosity toward yourself changes the entire emotional climate in your home
  • What real repair sounds like — and why a superficial apology can actually make things worse
  • Why it is never too late — with teenagers, with adult children, and even with parents who are no longer living

Topics: Emotionally Focused Family Therapy · EFFT · Emotionally Focused Therapy · EFT for couples and families · EFCT · Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy · Hold Me Tight workshop · Hold Me Tight Let Me Go · parent-child repair · negative cycle in families · couple conflict and parenting · parenting teens with attachment · gentle parenting · peaceful parenting · conscious parenting · family repair · attachment parenting · parent burnout · parenting and marriage · generational healing

Guests: Dennis Eames and Kim Eames — Certified Emotionally Focused Couple, Family, and Individual Therapists and Supervisors 

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